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A new year brings new opportunities to interrupt the future narrative and inspire this world.

Whenever I feel unsure about our future, I look into the eyes of my students and I know we'll be okay.

Here's my proof:

"I am currently sitting in my college dorm room after you had just lectured to us. I did not get a chance to say thank you afterwards, and I so wish I did. I wanted to send you this to say thank you for driving the 7 hours up to talk to us, to look into each of our eyes, to affirm that we are loved and accepted, and to share your story, and grace us with your presence. It was a pleasure and an honor to be able to listen to you in person and feel impacted and empowered by your poetic words. You truly have a gift of touching people's hearts and souls, in the most beautiful way." ... See MoreSee Less

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In honor of World AIDS Week, I remember:

Steven, who was the first of my 133 friends to die. At 25 years of age, he was only one day older than me.

Dennis gave all his possessions away in his final days; I got his high school ring.

Mark and I played American Top 40 trivia as he lay dying, while his parents sat in the next room, too afraid to come in.

Adrian’s KS lesions covered his entire face. The only part that wasn’t covered was his smile. He once said, "Every rosebud is a formal promise."

At Jennifer's funeral, as a soft wind stirred, a willow branch tapped me on the shoulder and I remembered her saying, “Of course there’s more when we die. Where else would music go?”

Michael insisted, “I’m not dying till I find out who wins the Oscar for Best Picture." It was “Schindler’s List” that year.

Greg said, "I feel like every cell in my body has a tear to shed."

Philip would get down on his knees every time he hugged me as if to say, “Don’t ever reach for love. Let love reach for you.”

Jesus cried out for his papa in his final hours.

Lynn was quiet. He always held his hands in his pockets.

John Fletcher Harris once said, "Stand up, let your leaves fall all around you, and with bare branches, expose yourself to the sun; expose yourself to God."

Diana finally found the love of her life.

On the day he died, Larry looked at the circle of friends that had placed their hands on his body and said, "I feel so much pain and so much love...all at the same time."

Jerry and I got our ears pierced in the east village. When I was scared of dying, he would pray with me.

Billy shared his umbrella with me on rainy days.

Andrew gave me $5 to buy myself something to eat. He said, "Everyone deserves to be saved once in awhile."

Anna Marie was always smiling. She called me, “Sunshine.”

Eddie refused to stop dancing. He died on stage, while performing in a ballet production.

The last time I saw Ritchie, he told me to go back to dance class. “Because you can, Scotty," he said. "Dance because you can!”

Ross wept when he said, "This is not the way I wanted my life to go, but I'm still so grateful for my life."

And I remember the man from whom I got infected, 29 years ago this week, who looked into my eyes and said, "I didn't use a condom that time."

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Here's what a group of amazing 8th graders have to say about the future! ... See MoreSee Less

Peace Will Come!

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Heading to Florida to talk to a beautiful group of 13 year-olds about bullying and kindness.

The future narrative must remain a holy one. ... See MoreSee Less

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Every other year, I have honor of speaking to the students and parents of the Sandy Spring Friends School. This week, I spoke about kindness and bullying with the 8th graders, "being enough" to the 9th/10th graders and the power and purpose of forgiveness with the upperclassmen.

Here's a sweet excerpt from a student essay comparing the school's Quaker principles to my messages:

"Scott Fried says, 'by being kind to yourself you are being kind to others.' He applies this idea to every aspect of life. We can apply Quaker values to what he says by causing, promoting, and allowing these values to influence our lives and the way we think.

Scott speaks to the vulnerability that teens have. If we can apply Quaker values such as simplicity, community and integrity into our lives, we have the ability to see others and ourselves in a positive way.

We have the power to be kind to others through silence: if we give them our silent attention and genuine interest through listening, we are being kind. If we make everyone feel confident and accepted, we can be part of creating a magnificent community of listeners, of caring individuals who all come together to be one."

I am so grateful to a part of the SSFS community! ... See MoreSee Less

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